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The 4 Disciplines of a High-Value Marriage Every Man Needs - EP#30
In this episode, Josh and Erin delve into the four disciplines that shape a high-value marriage.
From vision to communication, pursuit to polarity, each discipline forms the foundation of a partnership that grows stronger with time.
Whether you're newly married, in a long-term relationship, or aspiring to build a great marriage in the future, these insights will help you create a lasting, meaningful connection with your spouse.
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A tactical piece of the vision building and this is something I've deployed to the guys that coach with us in HVM is not only a written vision for your life and for your family, but also involve your spouse, partner, your wife. Bring her in into the vision building process. If you've ever seen anybody create a vision board, something that creative, that you guys can actually look at, reflect on review on a regular basis. Josh, what you said about that 10-year picture, that vision, it's amazing what you put down on paper and start to look at on a regular basis, how quickly it shows up in your life. Third discipline of a high value marriage is pursuit. Do what you did in the beginning and now do it 10 times better, because you got more seasons, you got more time, you got more effort, more energy and we've talked about this in previous episodes but having that healthy emotional attachment, that's the wind behind your sales. You can take on the domain of work and the marketplace, but don't stop making the main thing the main thing and the fourth one. Fourth discipline of a high value marriage is polarity. Don't be a wimp, be a high value man.
Speaker 1:This is the high value man conversation podcast, a show dedicated to the mission of building high value men. One great man means a great family, a great neighborhood, a better city, community, state and the world. The question is, if not you, then who? Welcome back to the High Value man Conversation. This is episode 30. This is the very first conversation between two married men. Let's go show it off. Join the tribe here.
Speaker 2:And today's conversation is all about the four disciplines that build a high value marriage which we all want a high value marriage, and so this is this is for anyone out there, regardless if you're dating, engaged, newly married, like you guys are a little bit further down the road with kiddos, or even if you're an empty nester, right. So marriage requires from us a consistent awareness, recalibration and massive effort.
Speaker 1:Love that Love that. So we're talking about the four disciplines hashtag disciplines of an epic lifelong marriage, Exactly.
Speaker 2:We'll dive in. First thing we've got to have as men and as leaders of our family and we talk about it all the time Aaron is vision vision.
Speaker 1:So this is discipline Number one begin with the end in mind. Have vision. Have vision for not only your personal life, your fitness, your faith, your finances, but now your family vision. Without vision, people perish, and you are now responsible in this new season I'm talking to myself here, in this new season for not only yourself, but also for your partner and your future kids.
Speaker 2:Yes, and a man with no plan is a man that's committed to fail, and so when you take the seat as the leader of a family like you have, it is complete At this point. You now answer for you and Stella.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:If you were to die today, even though you're a few days in, god's going to look to you because you're now the leader of this new tribe. I love that. Fred Nietzsche says that any man who has a why can bear any how. And so, when it comes down to disciplines, men so often struggle with the discipline because it requires the killing of one part of yourself so that another part of yourself can be bred and live and foster. Well, that's good.
Speaker 2:And so we have to have a powerful why. Because we're going to come across many, many reasons why not to see things through, reasons to quit, reasons to give up or reasons just not to push and press. And so if you have a powerful enough why through your vision, then you'll never lose sight on where you're attempting to take your family.
Speaker 1:That's good. So discipline number one is vision. Begin with the end in mind. What do you want? Focus on the things that you want, not what you don't want. But have one clear for your fitness. You don't just wake up in the morning with abs, arms and a nice ass Like you got to put the work in, and so, the same way that discipline shows up in your fitness, you have to put discipline into your marriage, your family, your future, your legacy. It means you have to plan and prepare.
Speaker 2:I love that when I create a vision for my family, or created a vision for my family and Brittany, and I revisit that frequently, once at the beginning of every year and then quarterly, because they're fluid goals that have to happen within that. We started with a 10-year, so whether you're in year one or you're in year 55, I want you to have a 10 year vision of where your family and your marriage can and will be. If you can imagine it, then you can accomplish it. So then work backwards. If you have a 10 year, then work on a five year. Once you have a five year, work on a three year. Once you have a three year, work on a one year.
Speaker 2:So people so discount. They have this thought in their head Aaron of man, I would love to have a marriage where it's peaceful and playful and highly sexual, and a very feminine wife that allows me to lead and I feel respected and my kids want to be with me. All these things we can envision and imagine, but because of where they are today, they have no idea how they're going to get there or if it's even possible. So many people will discount what they can accomplish in just one year, right? So if you see 10 years down the road, it can work yourself backwards down to one year. You make it more bite size and so quick discounting what you can accomplish not just in a year, but what you can accomplish in a month, what you can accomplish in a week, and gives you an idea and a tangible work that you can accomplish day to day. So you have to see it before you can have it. I love it.
Speaker 1:And in a tactical piece of the vision building and this is something I've deployed to the guys that coach with us in HVM is, you know, not only a written vision for your life and for your family, but also involve your spouse, your partner, your wife, bring her in into the vision building process. If you've ever seen anybody create a vision board, something that creative, that you guys can actually look at, reflect on review on a regular basis. Josh, what you said about that 10 year picture, that vision, it's amazing what you put down on paper and start to look at on a regular basis, how quickly it shows up in your life.
Speaker 2:It does, it does. Once you can conceptualize it, then you can begin to work on it. So don't wake up today or wake up tomorrow and go oh man, I really wish I had. No, you have. You need to take the time to see it and write it down. Get a tangible document in front of you of what you truly want.
Speaker 2:And then we're talking about breaking it into bite-sized things. You can do anything hard for a day. You can do anything hard for a couple of weeks, you can do anything hard for 30 days. And if you can focus even just 30 days at a time and start to do those things with your discipline and consistency in time, like Aaron's talking about, you'll fast forward several years down the road and you'll be blown away that you became a 10 year overnight success. Yeah, so good, so good.
Speaker 2:All right, that's discipline Number one vision real quick before we move on. Vision, because you talked about this, but I really want guys to get it, especially if you're, if you're the leader of a family, why it's so important to have our wives be a part of that. Vision is the only way that you're going to get buy-in from your spouse is if they're a part of it. Yes, right, so you want to consider them. You want to a lot of us.
Speaker 2:When we get married, we think to ourselves you know, I'm going to support her dreams, her desires, things like that, and we need to. That needs to be long-term vision, and so if you want buy-in, you've got to have it. Pause If you have children, I would say over the age of eight, as you have your family meetings and talk about your family visions, which you should begin to do the same practice with them. If you want buy-in with your children, it's your responsibility as the man. It's my responsibility as a man to lead my family. But if I want buy-in from my children as well, they need to be a part of those conversations.
Speaker 1:So good Roundtables Yep, I love that. Family meetings and putting that into place with the regular type and the same way that you run it in business, right? You don't just like start a business and think it's just going to run on autopilot and not have regular check-ins, vision casting, communication about core values, like there's a tempo to that, and so you know that you have to have that exact same template inside of your family life For sure Got to have it Cool.
Speaker 2:Plan to win or plan to fail. Amen Number two on our discipline for a great, successful, satisfactory marriage is communication.
Speaker 1:Oh, say it again for the guys in the back.
Speaker 2:So the template to have a great and successful, satisfactory marriage. The number two discipline is going to be communication. You think you know how to communicate. You are wrong. You are wrong and so we. Often we can quickly find this out in the first year of marriage. So, aaron, you have begun to master this part of your life. But now you have a new. That equation I talked about X plus Y equals Z. Your X has now gained or sorry, your Y has now gained an X, so your equation has grown a bit that you're going to have to go in and redefine what communication looks like to you, because it now involves you and Stella, which is a beautiful thing. But number two for men is communication, because we're not as good as we think we are.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and what I love about this, and I say this is the greatest gift that my wife has now provided me Uh, english is not her first language, and so she speaks Portuguese, and so part of the communication process in the courting up to this season, and everything that we've practiced so far has been me slowing down.
Speaker 1:Slowing down and really confirm do we understand each other? Because we don't have, we can't rely on, you know, english being the primary language between the two of us. We have to really take time to be present, create eye contact, make sure we fully understand, clarify, re-communicate, ask questions, and so this is the greatest gift that God has provided through this relationship so far, because you know me, I move fast, and so I just assume everybody knows what I'm thinking, when I'm thinking it and exactly how to do it, and so if I don't communicate well, I'm going to naturally create problems inside of every single relationship, and so the gift so far between Stella and I is that the communication has been a focal point, and it has already created so much promise between the two of us.
Speaker 2:For sure I love that. And so, even though you guys don't, and don't, initially, speak the same primary language, you're able to communicate and communicate regularly. Yeah, but this is a great reminder to us of what communication is. Literally, that is 55 body language, it's 35 tone and five percent words. Our words do matter, but to be even aware of our communication, I mean you guys have have frequent dialogues between yourselves, even though you're both still learning your, your, your your language, but you're still able to communicate because of your body language, because of the way that you say it.
Speaker 2:But when you integrate the thought process of truly slowing down, this is a great template model for every man out there that has an English speaking wife, because this is what it's required for us to truly connect inside of communication. Where it doesn't, it doesn't, it's not just a monologue, but a dialogue of men. Slow down, be present, be eye to eye, have words and questions so that your wife can respond to you, versus just blurting it out and going on about your day. Scent does not mean received. I love that.
Speaker 1:Say that again.
Speaker 2:Does not mean received. Men and women speak. Say that again Sent does not mean received. Men and women speak different languages, even though we speak the same languages. Women can speak logically, but often land more on the emotional side. Men speak more on the logical side.
Speaker 2:So we just come from two different places, and so research gives us a great picture of men's brains are a lot like waffles and women's brains are a lot like spaghetti. So we have to have that understanding of when you open a box to talk about something in your man mind, you're just being cognitive and aware that your wife's brain is wired differently as you speak to her. Be able to do it in a way that it touches on emotions, like if you were speaking to Stella honey, how do you feel about this, this or this Versus? If a woman speaks to a man, it's Aaron, what do you think about this, this and this? It opens the parts of our brains that are actually working when we're in conversation. That's something great to be aware of. Another big piece of communication is that both our mouths and our ears can be one of two things we are either a literal speaker or an inferential speaker.
Speaker 2:At the same time, we're also either a literal listener or an inferential listener. So, aaron, if you were sitting across the room from me and this is just an example, so you guys get an idea of what that means and you looked up at me and said, man, I'm thirsty, half of you guys would go go get Aaron a drink. Half of you guys would go, cool man. The inferential listener heard I'm thirsty, get me a drink. Even though you never said it, and gets up to go get a drink. The literal listener goes oh, cool man, neither one are wrong.
Speaker 2:But you also have to be aware that we have this type of listening in our communication. So you're either an inferential or literal speaker and an inferential or literal listener. And so, as we're in communication and learning what communication is inside a relationship, to be aware of those things, just because my wife says it's cold, she didn't say go get me a blanket. She didn't say go turn up the air. She just said I'm cold as a literal listener, cause I am. I have to be aware of that and go, honey, are you saying that you like me to get you a blanket or turn up the air? And she'll be like no, I was just telling you I was cold. So things to be aware of in communication and how that works. That's good, that's good.
Speaker 1:I love that Quickly identify for you guys when, when somebody says something, do you want to take immediate action on it based on the information that you have, or do you just process that as information and take no action? That's a good cue on it.
Speaker 2:Yeah, for sure.
Speaker 2:I think a lot of men have had this interaction with their wives because they hear about it so often where our wives say, hey, will you take out the trash? And the man says, sure, right now. And then it doesn't get done. And then she comes back and gets a little more frustrated Honey, will you take out the trash? Yeah, I'll do it. And this more time goes by she comes back, even a little more heated will you take out the trash or not? And he's saying yes. So that is a a literal speaker typically landing on a literal listener. And guy says, yes, I'll do it, but if, the, if, the, if his spouse would say, honey, we take out the trash right now yeah perfect or yes, I'll take the trash out when I finish this call.
Speaker 2:Yes, something like that. So we have these interactions all throughout the day and completely don't understand why we get conflict that comes out of it. To understand literal versus inferential will really help us in our marriage. Communication is key.
Speaker 1:Love. That that's the second discipline of a high value marriage. First is vision, second is communication. These are things are always, always improving on. For sure Number three pursuit, pursuit, romance, doing what you did in the beginning and realizing that that is the basis, that is the foundation, that is the minimum requirement to maintain, but it will not take you to the next level.
Speaker 2:It will not get you where you're at now. You've got to even ramp it up, I think, yeah. So pursuit really is in the beginning of a relationship. That's all I want to get to know you. You spotted this dame across the room. You're like, oh dibs, she is fine. So what do we do? We check her social media. We may bump into her and ask her out for coffee. We started having conversations. We're texting sweet things, buying roses creative with your date nights.
Speaker 1:You're consistent about how you show up, opening the door, you know, asking her how her day was. There's a pursuit, there's an active engagement, and you have a great way of defining pursuit. It's awareness Plus Action.
Speaker 2:Effort, effort, effort, same thing. Yep, romance is key. On pursuit, pursuit is two things, ben Awareness and effort. Pursued is two things, ben, awareness and effort. Awareness is taking the time to understand and get to know your spouse. Whether you're in month six of your relationship or year 60 in your relationship, we all change over time and if you think that you're, if you've been together 25 years, you think your, your wife's favorite flower, favorite color is the same as the day you met her, you're probably wrong and that that's in every area. So we have to continue to ask open-ended questions and date our spouse and pursue her intellectually and emotionally. That's the awareness piece and the action we put behind it.
Speaker 1:It's all good Pursuit. Third, discipline of your high value marriage is at minimum. Do not stop doing what you did in the beginning and ramp it up a little bit, cause you need to consistently pursue your woman's heart to keep that romance, that sexy time, all that love alive.
Speaker 2:And I think a big picture of pursuit that a lot of guys can gloss over is in 1 Corinthians. It's probably the most famous love quote that there is in the Bible. We hear it at every wedding is that 1 Corinthians says that love is, and it says it's patient and it's kind. Then it goes on to tell us a lot of what loves not. But I truly believe, if we focus on those two things, that a picture of pursuit can be being loving as patient and loving as kind.
Speaker 2:It's not if we're going to fight, we're going to have conflict in our marriage for the rest of our lives. But if you choose to be patient in those moments, if you choose to be kind with how you show up, to be present in those moments of conflict and to be kind with your words, then you will negate and not even have to worry about all the things that love is not. So pursuit doesn't just come in the physical send text messages, buy roses and take her to dinner those things we should be doing also, and if you're only doing that on Valentine's Day and her birthday, then you're failing miserably Get your life together. So, as a man, pursuit is daily. Pursuit is daily. With our words. Pursuit is daily with our actions and serving our spouse. Pursuit is daily with putting her first place. If your wife gets your leftovers, then the marriage you have is a leftover's marriage and you're getting what you deserve zinger pursuit, pursue pursuit.
Speaker 1:You have to be aware of her, you have to take action on it. Love that, so good. What, josh is just on a side piece on this one for the pursuit? What are some things that you do now that you did in the beginning, that you've been consistent with?
Speaker 2:I love that. So you guys have heard this before, but I'll bring it back up. Um, I get up several hours before my wife every day because I need my quiet time, study time, word in the Bible and I'm reading something that challenges my brain. But when my wife does wake up, our first interaction is a long hug. It's minimum 40 seconds, but it's usually a minute or two where we just embrace each other. I typically lightly rub her back, scratch her back, just hold her. So that's first thing is we start our day with an embrace. Right, we can even look into the biomedical things or biophysical things that happen inside the body, but the biggest thing is we start our day with a hug. Second thing is we have a shared calendar. This is a form of pursuit for me, because Brittany knows what happens throughout my entire day, every day. She is a producer and a high mover as well, but for her to be able to just to know what's going on in my life really helps her have security, safety and feel like it's same team, right. So it's a piece of pursuit as I take the time to build up my calendar. Number two I said it was number two. Number three is a big one for me. You guys have heard me say I made a vow to have no leftovers in my marriage, which means as things happen throughout my day that are shareable, that are worth conversation, whether it's a win or it's a difficulty, I share it with my wife. I'm not asking her to give me a solution or to fix things. I just want her to know first what's going on in my life. So that's a big picture.
Speaker 2:And then the last 30 minutes of the day, regardless of the time we spend together. So I call it pretzeling we're cuddled up in bed. Call it what you want it we're cuddled up in bed. We're typically talking. Obviously we're very close, in proximity. It's a sweet time. Usually there's some kissing, some conversation, but no leftovers is a big piece of pursuit. It's good. And Last one I give is happens anytime throughout the day. But I tell guys, if you ever want to turn your wife on, is at some point. You pass her in a hallway or at home, wherever you are, just nudge her up against the wall, lay a 10 second sexy kiss on her and then walk off like big poppy, don't say a word. So these are things that I do it every day. So hug, shared calendar, big poppy kiss and no leftovers. 30 minutes of pretzeling a night are my four things I do every day. As far as pursuit, I love that.
Speaker 1:And the only thing I would add to that is the intentionality also of date night. I know you guys do date night every single night of the week. It's on the calendar, it's a preset rock, non-negotiable.
Speaker 2:But don't stop dating your wife the same way that you wouldn't stop dating the girl that you're pursuing for sure. No excuses, love it. Nobody's that busy, not even you. Number four on how to have a successful, satisfactory marriage. The discipline that's required of you is the discipline of polarity. Let's go polarity.
Speaker 2:Let's talk about polarity as as magnets are attracted, there's a positive and a negative on the ends of a magnet that attract one another to itself. We have polarity on this planet. We have a positive and a north, we have a north pole and a south pole. You've got to maintain the polarity that you had in your dating life and in your engaged life and carry that on into your married life so often so.
Speaker 2:I'm over a decade in and it's very easy for us to have the things that made us attractive in the beginning for both men and women, for us to, as we integrate our lives, as we start to integrate responsibilities, that part of those things get put on the back burner, sure, right? So, aaron, you're a fighter. You work out daily. You're disciplined in your, in your diet. You're disciplining your men in the time you spend with men multiple times a week. Those will become more complicated decisions now that you've integrated someone into your new tribe. You've got a family now, sure. So not saying put your wife on the back burner, but in order to keep that sexy, strong, disciplined, masculine male that Stella was drawn to in the first place, you have to protect that mask, that masculine polarity side of you and not lose parts of yourself because you're married now, so good.
Speaker 1:So when we talk about polarity, we're talking about masculine and feminine dynamic, the attraction between men and women. So in the beginning of the relationship, you, as a high value man, pursued your woman. You made decisions, you led well. You planned the date night, you planned the vacation, you made the decision-making process for her as feminine, just to be able to show up and be the beautiful flower. And so you were very consistent with that preparation, that planning process.
Speaker 1:What Josh and I see so often in our coaching and working with other men is that polarity starts to drop as soon as the man gets into the relationship.
Speaker 1:You know so, six months in one year, in the planning, preparation, the self-care that you did as a man, prioritizing your fitness, how you look, maybe like trimming yourself a little bit all the stuff that you did in the beginning. We've talked about this. Don't look like a gorilla If you expect to have any type of lovey time. But the planning, the preparation, all of that is the masculine polarity. It is the guy that is creating order out of chaos. If you think you can step into your now new marriage or any season of your marriage and abdicate leadership, stop being the high value man. You're quickly going to drive your woman from the feminine into the mother role and she's going to have to take on some of those masculine qualities. So the quickest and fastest and most effective way for you to lose the polarity that's that sexy time, the attraction, the love dynamic between you and your wife is to stop leading in the relationship.
Speaker 2:Yep, which means it's your responsibility to know the status of your bank account. It's your responsibility to pay the bills. It's your responsibility to schedule the date nights. It's your responsibility to know the needs of your children. If the school calls and they call you because there's a need with your child, you go. Oh, I don't know, call my wife.
Speaker 2:You're not leading your wife in that area. You should know right If your children need to be. If you're, if the laundry for your kids needs to be put away, you should know what drawer it goes into. I'm not saying that you need to be a kept husband to know those things, but as the leader of your house, you need to know the order and the placement of everything in your home and you're held responsible for it. Polarity is a huge thing, and to or not only just to maintain it, but continue to lead in that create safety and security for our wives. And again, it's one of the things that makes men. We talked about blades the other day on a previous podcast. You can check it out if you want to hear it too, but it's part of sharpening your blade is keeping your polarity.
Speaker 2:So, I'm over a decade in. Some people would call me an ape. That's completely up to you. I think it's kind of sexy. I want to be a gorilla in my next life, but just went on a date night this past week and we came out after.
Speaker 2:Our date night was a highly active date night. We broke a sweat. We come out of the gas station, we stopped in for some water and Gatorade and there happened to be a guy outside who is I'll just say this way a guy outside who was just peeing in the parking lot. I saw it before my wife did and I quickly ushered her to the side because she doesn't deserve to be exposed to stuff like that. I put her in the car and I turned around and gave the guy a piece of my business, because clearly his father didn't teach him the lesson that he needed to know that that's not allowed, especially outside of a convenience store that has a bathroom inside.
Speaker 2:A couple other guys hop out of the truck, I think, to back up their dude, and I was ready to go at it with them, simply because I'll be a father in any scenario that needs a father, and that guy needed a father. Now, it didn't turn into anything physical which I would have been completely open to, had it a little three on one to be nice in my life right now. But that's a piece of masculinity because I saw something that my wife does not need to be supposed to, and you filled it.
Speaker 2:I filled it in a very masculine way that's very protective. So it's one way out of thousands that a man can show up. But you need to show up that way consistently in your pursuit and romance of her and being present with her with y'all's children. She doesn't need to be the only tender one who spends time with the children. It's got to come from you as well, and how you deal with your families. If you're married, there are typically two sets of parents if they're still alive that you're dealing with Boundaries.
Speaker 2:So, having boundaries in place to create a core family for you, without external influences controlling and dictating what you do in your family. So many, many things we could talk about on this, but polarity is huge, and being the masculine leader in these areas is what's gonna make your wife feel a little more turned on to give you the things that you want in your life, and you know what I'm talking about. I love that.
Speaker 1:And the action behind polarity lives inside of the men you surround yourself with, and so when you think about being a masculine high value man, no one just gets there accidentally. This means you're surrounding yourself. Just as the proverb says iron sharpens iron. Putting yourself inside of a brotherhood where you're challenged, you're sharpened. People will beat you into shape because you're just not getting it. At the end of the day, a great man becomes a great man when he spends time with great men. That is just the piece of it. So if you think you can lone wolf it in your relationship, your dynamic, you're going to have a great marriage just by you and your wife doing it together, it's simply a fallacy. It's not going to happen. You're lying to yourself, uh-huh. You need to spend time with high value men on a consistent, regular basis, get the feedback, challenge yourself, have healthy competition Men build better men, and if you expect to be the great man in your relationship, for your wife, for your kids, you gotta be in a tribe of other men.
Speaker 2:Yes.
Speaker 1:Done mic drop Boom Recap on this. The four disciplines of a high value marriage, first and foremost, is vision. Vision points the way. Without a vision, the people perish, and you are now responsible for not only yourself, but you're responsible for stewarding the feminine your wife and your kids. Second discipline communication. Sent, I love, I love this. Sent does not mean received. Just because you say something, you have to expect that there's going to be something lost in translation. There is because men and women receive things very differently, even in your dynamic with your male friends, at whether one of you is inferential or literal. Communicate, communicate, communicate over communicate over words, over communicate.
Speaker 2:So good. Third discipline of a high value marriage is pursuit.
Speaker 1:Do what you did in the beginning and now do it 10 times better because you are more seasoned, you got more time, you got more effort, more energy and we've talked about this in previous episodes but having that healthy emotional attachment, that's the wind behind your sales. You can take on the domain of work and the marketplace, but don't stop making the main thing. The main thing. Continue to pursue your wife, your woman, with the same effort and energy and vitality and passions you did in the beginning. Yep, and the fourth one, fourth discipline of a high value marriage is polarity. Don't be a wimp, be a high value man. Yeah, lead well, have vision, communicate, pursue and put yourself inside of a tribe of other men that will challenge you, confront you and help you be the best version of yourself.
Speaker 2:Yep, you'll never be respected. If you can't lead yourself, you'll never be really truly a leader. If you can't, then, lead your family. You want people in your sphere that want to be around you 12 seconds around you or your family. We can decide whether you're doing that or not.
Speaker 1:So good.
Speaker 2:Got to be got to you, got to have polarity in you. You have to be masculine, you have to lean in and do the hard things.
Speaker 1:Amen, as always. Guys, if this episode served, you, do us a big favor. Leave us a five-star review, share it with another man along his journey and we have a free community, the High Value man community. It's on school. We've got teachings, curriculum, content, weekly group calls that are completely free. Hop in, join the conversation, connect with Josh and I. We'd love to serve you along the journey. We know that it is only better because we help others become better, and we're excited to get better with you. Indeed, much love, many blessings. We'll talk to you guys soon, boom.
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